Thursday, November 18, 2010

The 'R' Word.

I can tell you what's wrong with your car by the sound the engine is making but i can never tell you what's wrong with your heart by the sound of your voice......

I'm an averagely good observer of people and i pride myself to a certain extent with the ability to predict a group of people's next move, but not the individual. You see the individual if left a lone is like a live wire... beating the ground restlessly feeling for momentum, hoping to be nudged by.. something.... someone.

The individual left alone is most likely unpredictable, that is why you'd most likely see a guy all by himself in a cafe reading a book (this is the same dude you might have seen three Fridays in a row at the club getting wasted with his buddies), the only explanation; his guys are either engaged in other activities he's not interested in or they're out of town. Hence he tries to act alone, he sits for a little while, ponders his next move, reflects on what he would habitually do by himself. Laundry? too boring, Call the girl he's been meaning to give a call? nah! she said she was leaving town last week, what a bout reading a book? hm mm.... sounds interesting... and off he goes, book in hand i Pod in pocket and a conviction in his mind that he'll definitely enjoy those few hours all by himself.

This was in partial my situation a few days ago. Just a few pages into the book, i found my mind driving down a different path... one not so affiliated with the particular text in front of me.
And boy, did my mind wonder.......

Through no particular form of inspiration or enlightenment i began to ask myself varying questions that touched on life and society, happenings and discourse but my mind seemed to nestle on one particular topic... Relationships. And before your minds start to get their typical ideas, i bid you to pause. I do not mean relationships in the narrow sense as is restricted to the interaction between a man and a woman, i mean it in its whole entirety. The relationship we have with God, with our Parents, our siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts, friends, colleagues, enemies and even the bogey man.

We all have the fitted boundaries within which we've been brought up to asses these various forms of relationships, through morals & culture, imbibed through religious teachings and over all the way society sees it.

But as an individual, how do you see these relationships?
What defines it for you?
Are these relationships formed and in line with what you were brought up to believe?

Personally as an individual, these relationships have different meanings to me.... the most underlying factor fundamentally is what is important though. 'RELATIONSHIPS'
without them we do not exist. that is why we have NIPOST, Address books, land lines, diaries, mobile phones, FACE BOOK, twitter, My space, Yahoo, parties and BBQs.. etc.

WE all build relationships as a means to different ends but the basic reason for having relationships is to exist.
Even Robinson Crusoe found 'his man Friday'. In an ambiguous way, this is sort of how i see some of my various relationships;

GOD: I have a million and one questions to ask, but i have just this one for now.... What's so special about SUNDAY?

My Parents: They instill in me the basal idealism they believe i need, they do their best to protect me from aspects of society they feel will scar me, yet they do not know my eyes have seen. I am effortlessly loyal.

My Siblings: My foundation, my innermost circle, the people who see me the way i truly am cause i am too aware that they have accepted me. I'd do anything for them, and i mean anything.

My Friends: The people who project my views of society, the guys i intellectually joust with. who i believe share a glimpse of the future with me. Who for no reason in particular i have developed an unexplainable bond. #no-homo.

My Lover: The woman who has my heart, she must be willing to give me her's. We both are human therefore are capable of rough handling on the occasion. We must strive to make each other better. I pray for her success and believe she prays for mine.

My Cousins: The people i hate to love. but i Love them any way.

"on a lighter note":

My enemies: What did i ever do to you??? Get a life.

My colleagues: Its nothing personal. I walk out that door and that's all we are, colleagues.

My Pastor: Sorry *sign of the cross* i just don't trust you. never will.

My Accountant: Keep on stealing the 5%, your accountant will still from you too.

The Bartender: I'll be nice to you just as long as you don't spit in my cocktail

Tax collector: 'F' u!!!

The guy/lady i bump into round the corner: keep walking

have a great weekend guys...



  1. pls make your posts visible. either use a bright color backgorund and dark color lettering or vice, it was hard reading this. Relationships are what keep us sane. Just having someone to talk, do shit with. Nowadays the pc,bb,pdma and yes tv have extended the means to relatioship. In Japan people have this SIM city life they have chosen to have a relationship. kool or weird ?

  2. You're right that no man can be an island. It is relationships that make us who we are and turns the world around. I like your take on the lover relationship.

  3. @ Human Machinery: hope you like the new look? Don't get what you mean by SIM city life.. Will look it up. @ Myne: truth is relationships say a lot bout who we are. Without them, there are no reinforcements or texture in our characters. We probably won't stand for anything. We need each other.